Life is going to happen, the rest is what you make of it...

Life is never easy and if it is, wait a minute and that will pass. It is like this for everyone and anyone who says it isn’t is lying. Who you are is not determined by what happens to you, but by what you do with it. Growing up we are taught by society what it is to be strong and what it is to be weak. Don’t cry it shows weakness, don’t let people see your anger it shows defeat, and taking risks makes you a risky person. As alluring and simple as that all sounds I realized at a young age that sometimes following the rules doesn’t work and coloring outside the lines is a lot more fun.
Sometimes being strong is allowing yourself a moment of “weakness”. Crying is an emotion to express pain and sorrow when words are just not enough. It can cleanse the soul, soothe the heart, and ease the mind. As someone who rarely cries in front of people, I understand the desire to not look like a blubbering idiot in front of people. I may not do it in front of everyone, but I cry, I cry when I need to and I am not ashamed about it. Through the tears you will find solace, something settling and relaxing happens after a long, hard cry. This does not make you a weak person, it in fact, takes a strong person to admit you are hurt and face the hurt head on.
A rule I set for myself years ago was that you have to allow yourself to be mad or sad for a minute and then rise above it. Giving yourself an allotted time to be angry is actually quite healthy. You set the boundaries and the rules but make sure that they are rational and logical. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying I have been dealt a shitty hand and I don’t like it. There is also absolutely nothing wrong with saying you make me mad and I am not going to tolerate it. By dealing with it initially, by facing it head on, you can learn to let go. If you dwell on it, bottle it up, or avoid it, your anger will eat you alive and seep out in to your life through your words, smile, and relationships! I know, I know... We are taught not to let people see that they have made us angry because it means they won. They only win if it over powers you.
I remember someone once telling me about things being to risky and how it was going to make me look or affect me. Well, I guess then I made the decision to be a risky person and from that point on I wasn’t going to care what people thought about me. Call me crazy but I believe taking risks is a sign of strength. Not being afraid to fail because you know you tried something no one else would, telling someone how you feel even if you know you won’t get the response you want ,or being strong enough to eliminate someone from your life no matter how much you care about them, just because you know they aren’t healthy for you, those are risks. It’s a risk to let someone into your life as well. But with out those risks things like electricity wouldn’t exist, you would never find the person you are destined to spend your life with, and the people who haven’t earned a spot in your life would be all you knew. You have to take a chance and sometimes it’s doing something you want to, something you don’t, and sometimes it’s something scary but in the end I have found I am always a lot happier.
When life gets tough, when you are feeling like you’ve hit rock bottom, it’s normal, it’s ok to be scared, it’s ok to be sad, it’s ok to be angry, it’s ok to take a leap of faith and take a risk. You become stronger by accepting and allowing yourself to have weak moments. You will always pull through, you will always survive it, just maybe not with the people you thought would be there, just maybe not in the way you thought you would, and just maybe not with-in the timeline you want. You are loved and supported. Sometimes you have to stop taking care of everyone else, and worrying about their problems, sometimes you gotta take care of yourself first!