Hope & Faith

Hope and faith are funny things, they are two separate meanings yet are linked forever to each other. Though we are all searching for these things in unison, we live most of our lives thriving on false hope and unlimited faith. My father used to tell me to take a leap of faith and God would do the rest. Sometimes, I believe that with all I have and others, I know I am going to land flat on my face. But I have learned this, no matter where you land or how hard you fall, life is always there to pick you back up. Now it may not be the life you thought you’d have or even the one you planed for your whole life but, it is the life you are destined to have. It may not make sense at the time, and hell if your anything like me you’ll probably spend sometime pissed off, but then the “AH HA” moment happens and you realize all the crap you had to go through led you to that one moment, that one perfect moment in life that you could not have had with out all the pain, sorrow, dissapointment, and hurt. If you haven’t had the “AH HA” moment yet, I am sure you bounce from one emotion to the other still trying to find out the meaning of life ( I say this because I know…. I’m still waiting), still trying to prove that you are in complete control of your life…. All I can say is Good Luck With All That! Give up all that mess people, just enjoy what’s in front of you, you can’t change it, your not gonna change it, and it made you who you are! Let it continue to mold you into who you will become…. If you haven’t had someone hit you with a car on purpose yet, or an angry mob of people try and light you on fire, chances are it’s because people like who you are…. Except who you are, love who you are, don’t be who you aren’t!

FYI GIRLS

"Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up: if a boy punches you he likes you, never try to trim your own bangs, and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. every movie we see, every story we're told implores us to wait for it: the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. but sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. how to tell the ones who want us from the ones who don't, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. and maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe it's you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. maybe the happy ending is just moving on. or maybe the happy ending is this: knowing after all the unreturned phone calls and broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment... you never gave up hope."

Just a Thought

Sometimes, saying your sorry to ones you hurt just isn't enough... When you say I am sorry, all I want to say to you is, go play in traffic! How bout not doing the things you did or saying the things you said.... Try that next time! But again... that's just a thought!

Bring it on...

Life keeps throwing stuff at me and though it might make me cry or it stings just a little, I have this. I have this completely. There is nothing life can throw at me that I can’t handle. You think I am kidding. I’m not. My friends have joked for years about how the stuff that happens to me they thought they would read in books. They’ve actually asked me to write a book. For example, I struggled to pull myself out of bed this morning after my shitty couple of days that left me with swollen eyes, a twisted knee, a little hurt and a lot of disappointment, and here I am running late to the airport. I don’t like being late…. EVER! I lift up my suitcase to drag it down the stairs and much to my surprise, it wasn’t zipped shut. Everything spilled out on the floor I reassemble my suitcase and head out. I get to the parking lot. The same parking lot I have parked in for 5 years. I exit on the ramp and pull down to find that it’s closed. So I think to myself, great, and start laughing. So, for a split second I struggled to decide whether I should barrel through that dinky little bar they use to gate me out, or risk the accident of reversing back up the exit ramp. I figured a great way to start this trip was not to start it in jail so as I am reversing back up the ramp and here come 5 more cars. Awesome, so I can barely see because my eyes are so swollen and here I am reversing a mile down the exit ramp about to cause a 5 car pile up. Of course, my eyes weren’t swollen enough to miss the looks I was getting from these people. So I felt obligated to prove my level of intelligence and stopped to warn everyone of their upcoming parking lot denial. Once I explain to everyone what is going on they follow me in reverse. Well…. In an attempt to not get hit I throw my car into drive. Apparently that is not the right thing to do when your car is in reverse. There I am driving a 2009 Lexus and stalled out in the exit. I finally collect myself enough to figure out I needed to turn the car off and then turn it back on. I get the bastard going again and guess what the parking lot is full…. Great! I am already late… I drive for 45 minutes to find a parking spot just to get to my plane where I am behind the loudest woman ever! I get to freezing cold Detroit only to find the warm and cozy flannel pj pants I thought I had packed was actually the top….. so no warm clothes for me… but somehow, despite still trying to figure how to deal with the hurt and disappointment of this weekend, I have this…. Bring it on! Bring it on!

I miss my Dad....

There are times in life when little girls need their dads. Today is one of them, though I know what he would tell me, though I know what to do…. Somehow, I feel like he could make it hurt less and be a little easier to deal with. Today this little girl needs her dad. A great big hug and a kiss on the head was all it used to take to make everything better. These days, though I’d give anything for a hug and a kiss from my dad, the solutions for heartbreak have become more complicated. I recently realized that I have been putting people first, ahead of myself, who don’t even place me 2nd or 3rd. I deserve better and I've known that all along. For some reason I dig deep down inside and find faith in human kind. Not every time but most times, I am proven wrong. People are just that people. I can't expect every person to be like me and put others ahead of themselves. This isn’t what I want, but I am gonna take the high road. Maybe its because I look at everything as a lesson or because I don’t want to walk around angry. Or maybe its because I finally understand there are things we don’t want to happen but have to except, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live with out but have to let go of. So I am gonna hit the delete button of life. Forget my feelings, remember I was 2nd choice, and start focusing on me! Friends and love interest alike, if they have put me in a situation where I was 2nd choice, devalued in any light, or forgotten…. I am gone….

Hooked on Phonics for Dating

It has become apparent that yet again, men have lost their ways on how to date real women. If we can create systems like Hooked on Phonics, Rosetta Stone, and even the For Dummies books, how is it no one has created an actual system for dating to assist men in doing it correctly. If people can learn new languages, to read or even how to remodel a bathroom, we can certainly teach people to date properly. The problem is, there are no rules anymore. There are three major things men need help with… The approach and flirting, dating, and how to treat a lady.

The Approach & Flirting:
In the movie Hitch, Will Smith says it best, “Basic Principles - no woman wakes up saying "God, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today!" Now, she might say "This is a really bad time for me," or something like "I just need some space," or my personal favorite "I'm really into my career right now." You believe that? Neither does she. You know why? 'Cause she's lying to you, that's why. You understand me? Lying! It's not a bad time for her. She doesn't need any space. And she may be into her career, but what she's really saying is "Uh, get away from me now," or possibly "Try harder, stupid," but which one is it? 60% of all human communication is nonverbal, body language; 30% is your tone, so that means 90% of what you're saying ain't coming out of your mouth. Of course she's going to lie to you! She's a nice person! She doesn't want to hurt your feelings! What else she going to say? She doesn't even know you... yet. Luckily, the fact is that just like the rest of us, even a beautiful woman doesn't know what she wants until she sees it. Basic Principles - no matter what, no matter when, no matter who... any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet; he just needs the right broom.” Now, if you are not interested in a girl in dating the girl, you need to make that clear. Women can’t read minds either. Flirting with a girl you aren’t interested in and you haven’t made that clear too only leads to trouble for both of you. Be respectful, talk to her the way you way you would want someone talking to your sister or your mother. Ask questions about her goals, her family, her career, and her friends. Flirt, don’t treat her like your best friend but don’t treat her like a piece of meat either. Simple things like touching her arm or her hand, teasing her a little about something that will not hurt her feelings, or letting her catch you looking at her and smiling is enough. Remember, a good girl is worth the effort you put in, the crazy ones aren’t.


Dating:
Now this is pretty simple… Movies are a terrible 1st, 2nd, and 3rd date. All they say is I don’t want to talk to you or learn anything about you, I just want to get you into some place dark. Dinner, drinks or activities are always a better idea! Now, after the first date, if you are interested in seeing a girl again, it is ok to wait 3 days to call her though we don’t like it, we’ll give you that. No more than 3 days though. Most important thing to remember is after the 3rd or 4th date, if you do not see yourself in a relationship with the girl, end it. DATING LEADS TO RELATIONSHIPs! Again, we can’t read minds… If you continue dating a girl, she will assume you want more. By this time, you should be comfortable enough with the girl to make your intentions clear. Do it.

How To Treat A Lady:
Everyone is left up to their own discretion on how to treat each other. This is a huge problem when people seem to think treating someone like dirt is ok. Holding a couple of doors here and there, opening a car door once and a while, sending flowers or something as simple as a good morning text just letting her know you were thinking about her, will not kill you. In fact, it shouldn’t be hard for you at all. It will only help you win over the girl. Take some initiative and so will she.

Ultimately, women do understand that most of you in your 20’s have only been dating the bar skanks or girls that are a little Coo Coo for Coco Puffs. So understandably it may be a hard transition in to dating real, honest, good girls. There is no need to be intimidated by a strong independent woman, who knows what she wants. However when dating real women, the rules change, the way you play the games change. You can’t play football with baseball rules. Remember you can’t treat good girls the same way as the girl in the bar you try and take home. If you are unsure of how to date the right way, watch HITCH. Take some notes…