Hooked on Phonics for Dating

It has become apparent that yet again, men have lost their ways on how to date real women. If we can create systems like Hooked on Phonics, Rosetta Stone, and even the For Dummies books, how is it no one has created an actual system for dating to assist men in doing it correctly. If people can learn new languages, to read or even how to remodel a bathroom, we can certainly teach people to date properly. The problem is, there are no rules anymore. There are three major things men need help with… The approach and flirting, dating, and how to treat a lady.

The Approach & Flirting:
In the movie Hitch, Will Smith says it best, “Basic Principles - no woman wakes up saying "God, I hope I don't get swept off my feet today!" Now, she might say "This is a really bad time for me," or something like "I just need some space," or my personal favorite "I'm really into my career right now." You believe that? Neither does she. You know why? 'Cause she's lying to you, that's why. You understand me? Lying! It's not a bad time for her. She doesn't need any space. And she may be into her career, but what she's really saying is "Uh, get away from me now," or possibly "Try harder, stupid," but which one is it? 60% of all human communication is nonverbal, body language; 30% is your tone, so that means 90% of what you're saying ain't coming out of your mouth. Of course she's going to lie to you! She's a nice person! She doesn't want to hurt your feelings! What else she going to say? She doesn't even know you... yet. Luckily, the fact is that just like the rest of us, even a beautiful woman doesn't know what she wants until she sees it. Basic Principles - no matter what, no matter when, no matter who... any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet; he just needs the right broom.” Now, if you are not interested in a girl in dating the girl, you need to make that clear. Women can’t read minds either. Flirting with a girl you aren’t interested in and you haven’t made that clear too only leads to trouble for both of you. Be respectful, talk to her the way you way you would want someone talking to your sister or your mother. Ask questions about her goals, her family, her career, and her friends. Flirt, don’t treat her like your best friend but don’t treat her like a piece of meat either. Simple things like touching her arm or her hand, teasing her a little about something that will not hurt her feelings, or letting her catch you looking at her and smiling is enough. Remember, a good girl is worth the effort you put in, the crazy ones aren’t.


Dating:
Now this is pretty simple… Movies are a terrible 1st, 2nd, and 3rd date. All they say is I don’t want to talk to you or learn anything about you, I just want to get you into some place dark. Dinner, drinks or activities are always a better idea! Now, after the first date, if you are interested in seeing a girl again, it is ok to wait 3 days to call her though we don’t like it, we’ll give you that. No more than 3 days though. Most important thing to remember is after the 3rd or 4th date, if you do not see yourself in a relationship with the girl, end it. DATING LEADS TO RELATIONSHIPs! Again, we can’t read minds… If you continue dating a girl, she will assume you want more. By this time, you should be comfortable enough with the girl to make your intentions clear. Do it.

How To Treat A Lady:
Everyone is left up to their own discretion on how to treat each other. This is a huge problem when people seem to think treating someone like dirt is ok. Holding a couple of doors here and there, opening a car door once and a while, sending flowers or something as simple as a good morning text just letting her know you were thinking about her, will not kill you. In fact, it shouldn’t be hard for you at all. It will only help you win over the girl. Take some initiative and so will she.

Ultimately, women do understand that most of you in your 20’s have only been dating the bar skanks or girls that are a little Coo Coo for Coco Puffs. So understandably it may be a hard transition in to dating real, honest, good girls. There is no need to be intimidated by a strong independent woman, who knows what she wants. However when dating real women, the rules change, the way you play the games change. You can’t play football with baseball rules. Remember you can’t treat good girls the same way as the girl in the bar you try and take home. If you are unsure of how to date the right way, watch HITCH. Take some notes…