Friend or Foe

True Friends
Most of us grew up, thinking our parent’s were crazy and knew nothing about what it was like to be a kid in this generation. I did and I especially did when my mother looked at me one day and said “honey, one day you will realize that it’s not important how many people you know, but how many true friends you have, and if your lucky you’ll have a handful, but know that true friends don’t come a dime a dozen and you’ll be able to count the real true friends on one hand.” I don’t know if it’s my age or maybe just the lessons that bad friends have taught me but, she was right. A friend is a friend, with out question, with out expectation, they are always there. They are there when things are great, they are there when things get tough, and they are there just to sit on a couch next to you staring blankly at the TV in silence because words aren’t needed. We get to a point in life sometimes where we realize I have enough friends, friends who have earned their spot in my life, who have been there through thick and thin, friends who know what’s wrong before I even say a word. If someone wants a friendship it’s a two way street of working hard and loving harder. A true friend becomes family. Time wasted on “friends” who don’t put in the effort or share their love, is time wasted. These people are not “friends” they are aquaintences. A true friend never walks out, never abandons you, and most importantly a true friend doesn’t waver. When you think about the worst thing in the world that could happen to you, and you think about what friends would be there with no question no alterior motives, or agenda, most people are lucky if they can think of 5. It makes no sense to me the heartlessness people put in to making new friendships knowing they are not going to follow through, knowing they aren’t being themselves, knowing that at some point they are going to walk away. Why? Why waste anyone’s time trying so hard, just to walk away? But people do it, and it’s the real true friends that are left standing there wondering what just happened, who is this person, where did it all go wrong? Friendship is earned, it is a give/take relationship, it is more than someone who will sit next to you in a bar, has dinner with you here and there, plays words with friends with you or uses you for something they need, it is not one sided and anyone who walks away from a true friend for whatever reason does not deserve the title of friend.