Intimacy

It seems like only yesterday at the ripe age of what, 13, we started our journey into sex education. We sat nervously listening as our nerdy health teachers covered everything from our anatomy to the contraction of STD's. Curious, embarrassed and a little scared, we sat there wide eyed and ready to take that passage into what we thought was adult hood. Soaking everything in like sponges, we never realized how complicated that one class was going to make the rest of our lives. Somewhere in the midst of child birth and STD's, the penis and the vagina, they forgot to mention that the complications of the penis well exceeded pregnancy and STD's. They told you how to put on a condom but not how to deal with discovering you were just sex or the other girl or even worse being just sex and the first of many girls in the picture. They explained menstrual cycles and erections but they never found it pertinent to explain monogamy or the emotions sex produces. There were never worksheets about how to deal with being used. We women were left on our own to figure it all out. Growing up as a child you were led to the impression that intimacy was this amazing thing to strive for. This treasure you would be lucky to find. The thing is, as a child no one ever explained what it meant, the benefits and consequences, all from this one word. We were left to find out on our own. Webster dictionary defines it as something of a personal or private nature. Intimacy varies from relationship to relationship. This four syllable word can fill your heart with love and hope or break it in an instant regardless of whether it is physical, emotional, or both. There's a moment when it's more than just a game, and you either have to take that step forward or turn around and run away. Love is not always the simple I like you, you like me, lets make this work. Sometimes, some people are so jaded, they test each other, sometimes they settle for the ones they know are less likely to hurt them, someone they love less, someone stable and safe. But they always end up with the ones they truly love right?